Beautifully written. Had to pass this along. It’s a great read! theotsiproject
This is a take off of “Don’t date a girl who travels” and “Don’t date a girl who reads”. I recommend reading one of those first because this will make more sense.
Obviously there are guy OT’s too, but I wrote this in the same style as the other articles.
DISCLAIMER: I am not an Occupational Therapist yet, so this is written simply from what I know so far.
Alternate titles for this could be “Don’t date an OT with an Occupational Science background” or “Don’t date an OT from Saint Louis University”.
Don’t date an OT because she won’t be impressed with your fancy clothes and cool car. She wants to know what you do. What you care about. She won’t be easily wooed by sweet nothings and empty conversations. She’ll see past your clever one-liners and coy smiles. She craves intimacy and substance. She won’t be so easily caught because she has found a better reason to fly.
Don’t date an OT because she’ll talk to everyone she meets for far too long. People on the bus, people next to her on the airplane, people in the waiting room. She’ll spend too much time trying to explain what Occupational Therapy is and what it means to her. She wants to get to know everyone’s story. Small talk isn’t her thing and she isn’t afraid to ask important questions that require thoughtful answers. She’ll patiently wait for a response and won’t rush people along even if she’s in a hurry. There’s always time to listen.
Don’t date an OT because she isn’t afraid to cause a scene. She’ll get in an argument over person first language, or using the “r” word. She’s sweet but she’s strong. She’s an advocate. She’s not easily tamed. She’ll point out places that aren’t accessible for people with disabilities. She might even tell the restaurant owner that the bathrooms couldn’t be accessed for someone in a wheelchair while you’re out at dinner. It might make you feel uncomfortable but she doesn’t care. She’ll tell you if you’re being disrespectful or judgmental because she understands that people are so complex. There are contexts, situations, and angles that we cannot see and do not understand from a simple glance.
Don’t date an OT because she knows how fragile life is and how quickly you can lose something. She knows that disability is a minority group that anyone can join and in an instant your life can change. So she won’t want to hear about how mad you are about your phone breaking or your other frivolous complaints. She knows what is important in life. She has seen people who have lost it all and still have so much to give. She knows that the poorest people in the world are those who only have money. She sees past the materialistic world.
Don’t date an OT because she won’t make room for someone who isn’t as passionate as her. She has so much enthusiasm for her career, for her clients, for her work and if you don’t have something equally as fulfilling you’ll feel left out. She loves what she does and she’ll work too hard. She has fire in her belly that propels her forward in a dizzying tornado of energy. She’s a hurricane with a fiercely beating heart who never stops to rest. She won’t wait for you. She doesn’t wait around for love because she’s found it in her career. So she doesn’t leave work at her workplace. It’s a lens through which she sees life.
Don’t date an OT because there is never an easy answer to give her. She knows that “life is not a problem to be solved but a reality to be experienced”. She knows things can’t be quantified. She knows that the simple answer is usually not the right answer. She knows that life is so complex and it’ll frustrate you to hear her explain theories and explanations about transactionalism and the holistic approach. You can’t feed her an easy response. She looks for intelligent conversations and debates that might end in confusion with no clear answer in sight.
Don’t date an OT because she will see the good in everything. So much so it might get annoying. She’s optimistic about change and has faith that everyone has the potential to achieve what they want from life. She knows that even though the world is a broken place, it is so beautiful and full of promise. She truly believes she will make the world a better place.
Even though I never agree with any stereotype, I am the kind of person who admits there is often a basis for the stereotype. Like you know what, a lot of OTs ARE like this. ,even if its not me exactly.